Parents of first-graders and ninth graders are familiar with this, the problem of lessons for parents of adolescents is especially relevant. The festive moments of Knowledge Day give way to harsh everyday life.
The daily routine is changing, new responsibilities appear, difficulties arise. “The child does not want to learn,” the young parents complain. The situation is familiar to most moms and dads. Threats, persuasions are useless. Misunderstanding intensifies, conflict escalates, the problem worsens. How to find a compromise solution? Let's try to figure it out together.
We are looking for a reason
Before treating the disease, eliminate the cause of its occurrence. Why does the child refuse to sit down at homework? Psychologists name several reasons:
• tired due to an unusual load;
• lack of motivation;
• boring, uninteresting;
• doubts his own knowledge;
• does not know how to work independently;
• lazy, naughty;
• poor relationships with teachers, classmates.
Having found the answers, you will have to make a lot of efforts, establishing the relationship of the child with homework, restoring mutual understanding.
Ways to solve the problem
Fighting Fatigue
Even an adult is sometimes difficult to cope with fatigue. And before us is a child in whose life great changes have taken place. Daily study load (three to four lessons), emotional stress (new environment, discipline, teacher), continuous mental work - everything bothers the baby. At home, I want to relax, relax. Provide such an opportunity. Do not start talking about the school from the doorway. Offer to sit down for homework two to three hours later. The correct daily routine will help reduce fatigue, overcome fatigue. It must have time for games, walks. If a small student takes part in the drafting of the regime, he will strive to fulfill it.
Helpful advice. Walking in the fresh air, balanced nutrition, good sleep will become helpers in the fight against the fatigue of a young student.
Looking for motivation
Often a child does not understand why, instead of fun games, he has to solve examples, write exercises, read. Lack of motivation is an important component of success in the educational process. Confidential conversations about dreams, plans gradually solve the problem. Share your life experience, tell about the life of well-known people.
Interested in
Interest in classes is far from all children. And if a child (especially primary school age) is bored, it is difficult to voluntarily force him to do. Fantasy will help change the situation. Elements of the game, competitions arouse interest in classes. It is necessary to explain why you need to perform tasks at home. Encourage positive results, do not skimp on praise.
Psychologists believe that you can not try to bribe a child, promising material rewards for good grades. The method will work for a short period of time. Interest is brought up gradually.
Helpful advice. Do not set conditions. For example: "If you study well, then we ...". It is more correct to reward for results. For example: "You have not received a single bad mark for the whole week. Therefore, on the weekend ..."
Instill confidence
Low self-esteem is often the cause of negative attitudes toward homework. The child is unsure of knowledge: did not understand the teacher’s explanation during the lesson, did not find the answer to the question in the textbook. He does not want to learn lessons. He is afraid not to cope. The task of parents, calmly sorted out, to provide assistance. Do not solve the problem, but explain the difficult place. Offer to work on a draft yourself. Do not scold for mistakes! Together, look for the right solution. Focus on success, even minor. This will make the child more confident. He will no longer be afraid of an erroneous answer.
Helpful advice. Noting the merits, try to be objective. Overpriced self-esteem - a poor helper in achieving the intended goal.
We accustom to independence
Often children who have reached school age are not accustomed to independent work. Parents find it easier and faster to dress a child, remove scattered toys for him, than engage in bickering with their beloved child. If this is the case, it will be a difficult task for him to collect a portfolio without your help, to prepare for the lessons. The main thing is to show patience, clearly explain why it is necessary to do it yourself.
Helpful advice. The little schoolboy took the initiative: he wanted to do homework on his own. Use your free time to prepare a surprise for him: something tasty or healthy (repair a broken toy, sew a doll outfit).
We drive laziness
Sometimes the reason for unwillingness to sit down for lessons is ordinary laziness. A spoiled child will not do what is unpleasant to him. He is not used to exerting himself, making efforts to achieve the goal. In this case, parents need to change tactics. Act not only with gingerbread, but also with a whip. You can not buy a new toy, cancel the trip to the entertainment center, prohibit the game on the tablet. Punishment will gradually force the child to cope with laziness, as the desire to do what he loves will be stronger.
Helpful advice. The child should know: too lazy to do homework on time, reduced the rest time.
Extinguish conflict
Conflict with the teacher, a quarrel with classmates negatively affect the attitude towards learning. The child does not want to do homework, go to school, closes in on himself. If the family has a trusting relationship, a compromise solution can be found. Go to school, talk with the teacher, invite classmates to visit. Sometimes professional help from a psychologist is required. In a hopeless situation, you should change the school, teachers, environment.
Useful advice: The psychological atmosphere in the school affects academic performance. The stressful situation worsens the health of the child. Timely intervention by parents will help to avoid consequences.
Learning from experience
Parents with experience advise:
1. Do not give a negative assessment of the work of the child. Say that you are upset by his failure and hope that the next attempt will be successful.
2. Do not skimp on praise, fewer criticisms.
3. An example of a conscientious attitude to their duties should be the parents themselves. Work primarily on yourself.
4. Do not call the child "stupid," "slow," "sloppy." He will believe it. And being bad is much easier than trying to be good.
5. Talk openly about your mistakes and mistakes. Persuade the child: he is not an exception to the rule. The one who does nothing is not mistaken.
6. Do not focus on the notes in the diary. Knowledge and a conscious understanding of the subject is much more important.
7. Tell children more about love. Success in school should not affect the relationship.
8. Remember: the child is a person - requiring a respectful attitude. But he needs help, support, understanding.
Without high-quality homework, it is impossible to acquire a quality education. Both children and parents must learn this truth.
